Many Christians look at a gay or bisexual person and all they see is a confusing specimen who displays his or her moral depravity with behaviors of the body.
Sexual orientation, however, is very different than sexual conduct. Sexual conduct is the physical actions we commit with our bodies.
Sexual orientation is a combination of neurological, physiological, and emotional mechanisms that develops through an involuntary process. No one chooses to whom they will be attracted, and only becomes sexually stimulated by that gender because they promised themselves they would.
Preferences, including sexual ones, develop without our permission.
Sexual orientation is a product of our bodies that points us to love and connectedness, a union that is celebrated with the act of sex. This is true of all sexual orientations not just heterosexuality.
Most of us get stuck here, though. What did God have planned for our sex lives before the fall? We may never know with empirical data that registers p < .05. Many of us, however, believe with the certainty of faith that "God is Love" is always pleased with union between any two people.
Because the God of Union is the God called “God is Love,” I will refer to God as Love.
The Trinity shares their essences, Love, flawlessly: three parts living in communion with self-giving and goodness so perfectly that they are one being (Delio, 2001). We, as humans, were created to mimic that type of Love (Balswick, King, and Reimer, 2005).
Sure, we can make sexual orientation all about sexual conduct, especially for the gay or bisexual person. But if people who judge or appraise the sexual minority as though they are only a list of sexual practices, making out of them a morally deprived person, they fail to recognize that the LGBTQ sexual orientations are primarily about demonstrating Love, as well.
The gay or bisexual’s Love is equally rooted in self-giving and goodness like that of the Trinity. We are all created in the image of Love. Therefore, Love cannot be sinful in one person and righteous in another.
Categorizing the sexual minority as a list of behaviors is an inaccurate view that discredits their Loving essence.
On the day when #LoveMustWin, may we all take one step closer to seeing one another as vessels of Love, not sexual practices. In doing so, we will “…come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.” (1 John 4:16)
Nothing can separate us from Love (Romans 8:39); no height, no depth, and especially no sexual orientation. In other words, Love can never be extracted from our essence because it is our essence, no matter who you Love.
We all deserve to celebrate our Loving essence, even in marriage. So on this decisive day, may Love be with the Supreme Court.
(These ideas are written about in Isaac’s book that will be released in early 2016.)